We all want it. We all need it. But for one reason or another, most of us find it difficult to talk about money – especially when the conversation involves our significant other. No matter how hard the talk is to have, the reality is that you can’t create a truly great relationship until you can openly communicate about money.

Think about dating relationships. Money is the one subject people will lie about most. People tend to stretch the truth a bit when it comes down to talking about the dollar. They do all kinds of things to influence how others perceive their finances. While some conceal their money so they can be certain they’re not being used, others spend money they don’t have trying to impress the object of their affection. This may work out with surface level interaction, but when dating becomes a full blown relationship, it’s time to get real because not doing so could lead to full blown financial infidelity.

Yup! That’s a thing and that’s what happens many couples who eventually will say “money broke them up.” But it’s never money, it’s communication about money.

In this video, I share a few questions to help you get there:

1. “How did your parents handle money?”

2. “What does money really mean to you?”

3. “Despite our differences, how can we create and commit to shared financial goals?”

As always, I want to hear and learn from you!

How have you learned to talk to your honey about money? What are ways you could improve?